NOT Mom of the Year! - Baby Steps in High Heels

Monday, July 12, 2010

NOT Mom of the Year!

Have you ever had one of those days? You know the kind … when everything you do seems to be a failure. A disaster. Utter chaos.

No? Well, then maybe you are mom of the year! But, I most definitely am not.

In fact, I’m not just having one of those days. I’m having several of those days. In a row.

I woke up this morning trying to figure out just how to summarize the debacle that the last few days have been when I came across the NOT Mom of the Year Contest hosted by The Mommyologist and Life Without Pink .

Then it hit me … I am sooooo NOT Mom of the Year. And, the last few days prove it!

NOT Mom of the Year Award

Here’s why …

Baby has been a bit under the weather lately. We chalked it up to allergies. And teething. That’s what it was last time she went to the doctor. And, by God, I wasn’t shelling out another $20 co-pay to be told that there was nothing I could do about it. We suctioned her nose. We wiped her goupy eyes. We rocked her a little extra at night. Finally, I couldn’t take it with her eyes anymore. I called the doctor. They told me to bring her in for pink eye.

I knew it wasn’t pink eye (mother’s instinct/common sense = one point FOR Mom of the Year!).

One early Saturday morning doctor’s appointment later … Diagnosis: Double ear infection. Yes, go ahead and subtract that point. I suck.

How did I not know my child had a double ear infection? Probably because she had been pulling at her ears for days. Days. She had been fussy. Eating less from the bottle. Showing all the signs of an ear infection. But I didn’t get it.

And, let’s top that off with the following:
-I sent her to day care on Friday without socks. With a double ear infection. No socks. It was cold in that room.
-Baby and I took a short-ish road trip on Saturday after the doctor’s appointment (for a wedding shower). She sat in the back seat. Alone. She screamed. A lot. But, not before she made the biggest dirty diaper en route, which I changed in the back of my car with the sun beating down. We were both sweaty messes. Because of said wedding shower, Baby didn’t nap. So, again, she screamed on the return trip. We were both exhausted messes.
-I’ve forced her to change her sleeping habits while she’s been sick (see Operation De-swaddle below). And even though we’ve recently figured out that she loves tummy sleeping, I can’t put her down without waking her up. Screaming.
-Then last night I ran out of baby water to mix with the baby formula. Just ran out. Didn’t even know we were in low supply. Husband and I went to 2 stores to find it this morning, and neither one had any is stock. So we’re substituting distilled water until I can get to the grocery store later. I’m crossing my fingers that any fluoride content is low and won’t harm my child. Just stellar, aren’t I?

Am I a terrible mom? Sometimes I feel like it! But, no. I love my little girl, and she knows that. Sometimes, though, you just have a run of events that add up to disaster and leave you feeling like NOT Mom of the Year. And, that’s where I am right now.


  1. There has been more than one occasion where I thought my son was just being fussy/cranky and he turned out to be sick!! We all do it...we are only human! I hope your little girl is feeling much better soon though. Thanks so much for entering our contest!

  2. I don't know anyone who qualifies for mommy of the year lol

  3. You're doing great. My son pulls on his ears whenever he's tired so I'm constantly worried that he's got an ear infection going unnoticed...but it HAPPENS. You're cool.

  4. seriously i don't know what the hell is wrong with myself half the time when i am sick! there is no way we are supposed to just know every time our babes are sick
    and ear infections the worse to figure out!
    so don't worry, baby will be okay! and so will you! in the meantime just hug and snuggle her (it will make you both feel better)

  5. I didn't even know there was baby water. I'm so not mom of the year either!

  6. It's all good. When Hayden had his first ear infection I had NO idea. It turned out to be a double ear infection PLUS a ruptured ear drum. I felt awful, like I was the worst mom ever. How could I not have known? His ear drum had ruptured! But he didn't show any signs. Seriously. He was just running a really high fever (104). He has had a few ear infections since and never once showed any real symptoms - just the fever. Makes it tricky. I end up forking over that $20 co-pay only to be told it was a fever illness (not an ear infection) because now everytime he runs a high fever for a few days we end up taking a trip to the Pediatrician just to make sure he doesn't have an ear infection. He hasn't had one in over a year... Anywho, good luck! It's okay to not be mommy of the year. You are still a great mom! And no one is perfect. Not even close.

  7. It sounds like you need a (HUG). My kids have had raging ear infections without me putting the pieces together. Love when that happens. UGH.

    Thanks for commenting on my BFF post on Shell's blog last week!

  8. Oh I am so guilty of this. My kids will be super cranky for a few days before they actually get sick and I start getting mad at them only to realize they are sick...opps! Thanks for linking up!

  9. We all have been there girl...!! No worries! I grew up on flouride water and I am fine 44 years later...just to help you feel a little better! lol The city I lived in had it in the water supply. My sister is 41 and has never had a cavity and I have only 4 small fillings!

  10. a wise mom from bloggyland told me this pearl of wisdom: dont beat yourself up. things happen, and we dont always get it. but we will, experience will make sure of that.

    hang in there...

  11. At least U knew your baby had an ear infection without having to go to the doc. *sigh* I'm not Mom of the year either.
    This mothering gig can be so hard sometimes but it IS definitely worth it in the end. :)
    thanks 4 linking up!

  12. We tried to use the Ferber method one night with Mungee when she was still waking up several times a night. The next day she was really hoarse and we assumed it was from crying so much the night before. I took her to the doctor either that afternoon or the next morning and it turns out she had a double ear infection. I definitely felt like I was not mom of the year at that point. I think it happens to all of us :(

  13. You are not alone! I am not mom of the year either. Imagine my suprise when I tok Little R for a check-up and find out her tonsils are the size of golf balls! Then to top it off her sinuses were so blocked she could barely breathe. Now she is not a baby she is 7yrs old so you would like to think at some point she would have complained but she didn't and according to her doctor she had probably been like that for so long that she didn't know any difference. I feel horrible every time she says "wow mom, I can breathe now"
    I am so not mom of the year!

  14. i can totally relate to this.. when my son started swelling i thought it was our new dog so i gave him benedryl and only when he had a fever i took him to the hospital and it turned out to be something totally serious dealing with his kidneys and he was hospitalized for a week.. I felt so bad about it! But i mean who would have thought his eyes would get all puffy right after we got a dog and not blame it on allergies?

  15. Oh yes. Marlee had an ear infection once, but apparently it cleared up on her own. I didn't take her into the doctor either until it was way too late...

    You're not the worste mom! And neither am I, but I totally agree that sometimes it does feel like it!

  16. I always attribute ear pulling to're not alone. How are you supposed to know? I think you sound like a fantastic mom. Hang in there!

  17. My kids had asymptomatic ear infections so figure that one! Ya do the best ya can!

  18. I didn't know there was baby water either. Heads up on the fluoride, though. My 2 youngest had tons of cavities at their 5 year old visits (been going since 2) - and a study came out that more kids were having cavities because they were drinking bottled water without fluoride than tap water. I always bought my water or boiled it - but didn't know about baby water.

    Like Katine said, "Ya do the best ya can." And I so understand about paying to go to the dr to be told nothing is wrong!

    Being a mom is just one step at a time - and cherishing the good moments with all our hearts to get through the hard moments!

  19. Yeah, it never fails. i think they're fine, it turns out they are a germ factory, oozing puss from their ears.

    Nice image,huh? You're welcome.

  20. Ok we didn't HAVE baby water when my boys were babies, they got it boiled out of the tap.. umm yeah.. and my youngest never got sick till he was 2, and when he did I thought he had a cold. Ohhh nooo. He had double ear infection, sinus infection, bronchitis and strep. Oh yeah that was an ER visit that culminated in 2 shots AND a round of antibiotics.

  21. I can NOT NOT NOT even tell you how many times that has happened to me -- 4 kids, all get double ear infections all the time, and I realize it like a week (too late) later.

    Bottled baby water? Didn't know!

    You're a great mommy!

  22. wow, kinda of sounds like my post for this contest. I feel your frustration, I am sorry you had a rough few days and I hope they have gotten better since then :)

    It is really hard for us mom's to diagnose our babies, especially when it's so easy to just pin everything on teething. It doesn't make us bad moms, it just means that most of us never got into medical school.