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Monday, October 11, 2010

Being there

Another week. Another business trip postponed. Unfortunately, this time it is not due to a simple ear infection or bad weather.

As much as I love my child, I’d almost rather be away on business this week than be home for the reasons I am …

We lost my uncle, very unexpectedly, on Friday. Initial thoughts were that he had a heart attack. This was shocking to all of us, especially because he was so young. Not even 50-years-old yet.

Recent developments have indicated that it may be more complicated than we thought. My uncle, Greg, had been scuba diving and spear fishing in the Gulf of Mexico, and it’s more likely that his death was the result of something related to that … though the results won’t be in for up to eight weeks.

In reality, those details are trivial. The big impact is on our family – his wife, my aunt. And their two young children, both under the age of 10.

It’s heartbreaking. It’s terrible to think about those kids growing up without their dad.

And it’s so hard to know what to do or what to say.

For me, it’s difficult because I can’t just drop everything and be there. Before Baby came along, I would have packed up and immediately made the trip. All I want to do is be there.

However, I can’t just pick up and go now. I have to think through everything. Make logical, rational choices. Do what’s best for Baby and Husband.

My business trip is canceled, and Baby and I will be heading to Houston early tomorrow morning. We’re meeting my mom somewhere along the way, so I don’t have to make the entire trek alone with a child who does not like long car trips. Husband will follow as soon as he can get away from work.

I just hate not being there. I hate that I couldn’t go immediately. The truth is, the only thing I really know to do for them is to be there.

We’re praying constantly. It keeps hitting me over and over again. I think about my sweet cousins, who probably can’t fully grasp the finality of what’s happened. Then again, they probably get it a lot more that we realize.

If you have a moment, please say a prayer for my aunt, my cousins, and my whole family.

Thank you.


  1. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts. I am so sorry for your loss, hugs to you my dear. XXOO

  2. That is terrible. I am so sorry for your family's loss.

  3. How heartbreaking! Sending prayers.

    It is so hard that we can't always drop everything and just be there any more.

  4. So sorry! I am saying a prayer for you and your entire family to help you all through this difficult time and loss. Sometimes being there is all that anyone really needs.Hugs!

  5. I know how much it is hurting you to not be there the way you want. Having a family with children makes it much more difficult.

    Take care of you an yours and be safe.

    Prayers for all.

  6. How heartbreaking! Sending lots of prayers for them and you!!

  7. I'm sorry to hear about your uncle. Hopefully your family is able to get through this difficult time.

  8. I am so sorry so hear this. Please let us know if there is anything we can do. We'll be praying for everyone.