Traditions - Baby Steps in High Heels

Friday, December 10, 2010

Traditions

Last night I attended our local MOPS meeting. There were some very sweet older ladies speaking about family traditions around the Christmas holidays.

One said that you don’t know what will become a tradition when you first do it. It isn’t until several years later that you realize, oh! Okay, this is a tradition.

Another said that their tradition was traveling. That they were always on the go during the holiday season, but that they made it a point to be home on Christmas Day.

These speakers were very poignant given my recent attempts at cramming ‘new traditions’ (yes, I know, that’s an oxymoron) down Husband & Baby’s throats.

Given the expansive family we have, I feel like we’re always on the go. That we never do the same thing twice. And I’m worried that my child will grow up never having those fond ‘remember when we always did ….’ memories.

It’s really important to me to carve out some very specific traditions. I started pajamas in stockings from St. Nick this year on Dec. 6th. That one will become easy over time, but it was a vast disappointment this year considering Baby was completely oblivious to it all, and Husband was out the door for work before I had wiped the sleep out of my eyes, downed my morning coffee, and remembered to point out the new gifts.

I’m trying very hard to stay firm in my plan to ‘always wake up at home’ on Christmas morning. No matter what. No matter how far we have to drive on Christmas Eve. No matter how inconvenient it is. Even if we turn around and drive somewhere else at 7 a.m.

I want Baby to wake up in her own bed on Christmas morning.

But a few things that were said last night really spoke to me.

Calm down! Is basically what I heard. It will all fall into place. Everything will work out the way it’s supposed to.

I know that there are a few things that I need to hold onto. It’s easy to get caught up in all the options. All the celebrations. All the places people want us to be (and the places we ourselves want to be).

I know I need to carve out a few things that will remain the same from year to year.

But I now also realize that some of the best traditions are likely to occur without any planning. Without my forcing them into existence.

The crackle of an old traditional record player, as one mom spoke of last night.

Pancake Man – my stepdad – on Christmas morning.

And, yes, even traveling. ALL. OVER. THE. STATE. Can become a part of our holiday tradition.

Be it stopping at the same spot for snacks, playing a game, singing a song, or even simply the road trips themselves. These traditions remain to be seen.

8 comments:

  1. I am all about traditions! I think it all goes back to my love of routine and consistency. We have our christmas ornament tradition that I already blogged about, we also have an advent tree thing that counts down the days to christmas (every morning there is another little present left by Santa), then christmas morning I make it a point that we wake up at our home - santa has come and filled the stockings and left presents. My husband and I always give each other a Christmas ornament. We only get Hayden one gift each - Santa gets him the rest. We always go see Santa - Hayden won't sit on his lap or get near him so we just wave to him from a far. It's really all about family though and spending time together. It will all work out!

    P.S. Thanks for the comment on my blog about me being scared and nervous.

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  2. We don't have too many traditions but the ones we do do are the ones that were passed on from my mom. On Christmas Eve the girls get to open one present from Mom & Dad and it is always their Christmas pajamas {of course I get them for Dad and he gets some for me} that way everyone has new jammies for Santa. Also every year while putting up the tree the girls each get a new ornament that somehow represents something special to them for the past year. This way when they move out and have a tree of their own they will already have decorations of thier own. I love unpacking my ornaments every year as some of the ornaments we have I received when I was little and comparing them with were my girls are at the same age is super special for us all. :)

    Oh and our Christmas breakfast has become our latest tradition. I make a quiche and baked french toast which can be prepared the day before and thrown in the oven while the coffee is brewing. So easy and delicious!

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  3. We have little traditions in our home, but they mean the world to us.

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  4. Traditions are great, but I have learned you can miss out on a lot if you aren't willing to compromise even on traditions every now and then.

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  5. When I was young Christmas Eve was always spent at my aunt's house and when we returned home Santa had been to our houses. Which we knew of course cause he pitstopped for a visit at my aunt's house on the way out of town lol. Candy making was done all month. Mom, memaw, allof my aunts each had specialties. Still do. Only now I do the peanut butter balls and cookies and the red velvet cake with cream cheese frosting..

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  6. I feel the same way that you do...wanting to carve out some time for traditions! :) Hopefully soon they will all fall into place (for both of us) and we won't have to worry so much! :) Have a great weekend!

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  7. OH traditions... they are sweet, but boy can they kill you if you let them take over...most of ours are bi-annual, because my kids spend every other year with their dad, which forces us to travel... we always do an Advent Wreath at home!

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  8. OMG-you sound like me oh about 5 years ago. Wondering how we'd do it all. In time it has worked its way out. Before heading to the in-laws for Christmas Eve we open on gift each. Usually Will is knocked out by the time we get home so we cart him off to bed and get ready for Santas big arrival(ie Mom and Dad running around like crazy fools getting everything situated without waking up the brats). Christmas morning we are usually awakened by a very excited little boy who can't wait to open his gifts. Until last year, my parents would come up and we'd spend Christmas Day here. We'd hit the movies and have a late lunch. Last year (this year as well) we'll spend Christmas Day in Gonzales at my Momo's house with my moms family. Don't stress it will work its way out :)

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