I don't want to be that family ... - Baby Steps in High Heels

Thursday, February 19, 2015

I don't want to be that family ...

From the backseat, The Boy screamed, “I go church! Mommy! I go church!”

My daughter added, “PLEASE, Mommy! I want to go to church. I want to get ‘rashes’ today!”

She meant ‘ashes’ and she wanted to go because she knew one of her friends would also be at the Ash Wednesday service at our church.

The service started in 11 minutes, and we were at least 15 minutes away. The Boy was covered, literally covered from head to toe, in day-old snot. In fact, he had greeted me at the day care door by screaming, “Boogers! Mommy, boogers!”

I didn’t have a change of clothes for him (or a diaper bag) because I had come straight from work.

And, Miss Mighty was already on the verge of her typical end-of-day meltdown. The day before, she had screamed and cried for 48 minutes because of a Band-Aid.

Even so, there was something really wrong with this scene, and it was not my children’s physical and mental state.

It was me.

They were begging me to go to church, and I was making excuses.

We didn’t go.

There is just something that my Type A personality plus loud, small children that I cannot seem to make work with the quiet, traditional, Catholic mass.

I don’t want to be that family, the one that walks in late, can’t sit still or quietly, and ends up walking the halls most of the time anyway.  

I don’t want to be the family that ruins it for those sitting near to us.

I really wish I was better at this, less uncomfortable.

I know the Lord wouldn’t have cared if we were late, disheveled, or even loud.

But I also know that we were supposed to try not to be those things, and we were already 0 for 3. 

I'm a day late, but I'm linking up with Pour Your Heart Out at Things I Can't Say ...

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  1. It would be easy for me to say not to worry about it, that you are just supposed to show up. But I've been there and felt the same way. I did eventually get over it and would go anyway, but I know that feeling!

    1. Thanks. I know I need to just get over it too, and I'll get there. I'm working on it! :)

  2. I'm from Utah so I can't necessarily relate. I grew up in an LDS family (I am not LDS) and Mormon church is always filled with loud children and crying babies. They even have a room just for mothers and children who need to be fed or calmed down. When I married my Catholic husband I could feel the different tone at church and can see how it could be quite different to have loud children there. We ended up sitting above the congregation in a room with a glass window for, I'm guessing, loud children lol.
    I for one always like hearing kids being unruly, it is what church is to me...family...plus it is fun to hear parents try to bribe their kids into submission via cheerios and quiet games. My favorite is when kids shout in the middle of church. One time I was in church and a kid shouted out "I want to go home and eat ice cream, this is SO boring." Best Sunday Service EVER. I say go anyway.

    1. That's a great perspective. Our particular Catholic church is hard because they don't offer child care services, and the cry room is TINY. But maybe I should just start letting my loud, unruly kids give others something to laugh about. Thanks. :)

    2. I think it's great because the kids are just stating what the parents sometimes feel as well. Sunday services can be boring at times. I love listening to talks and enjoy church but there's always that one person that has that monotone voice. I think that is what is great about church and children, they are honest and I think anybody that has a problem with hearing a loud child during service has forgotten what sunday service is all about anyway. Let us know how it goes at your next mass. I would love to hear it.

    3. Thanks so much! I will let you know!

  3. This has been me a few times.. Deciding NOT to go because it was inconvenient for me, even though the children really wanted to. It's definitely a struggle sometimes.

  4. I completely understand. My family is big and has lots of little ones so a parent always ends up in the halls trying to calm down whatever kid was acting up. It's not any fun. We've started watching Church with online streaming at home instead.

    1. We haven't tried streaming online, but we often download the mass readings and say prayers together at home instead of church.

  5. We have all totally been there! Wishing you a peaceful weekend!