Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Readjustment Phase

On Friday, some of our very dear friends got married. In Mexico. It was a beautiful wedding, and a great little escape that Husband and I were able to sneak into our schedules.

We had a wonderful time celebrating and relaxing with our friends and reconnecting with each other.

But, as those things go, Monday returned faithfully and greeted us with mounds of emails, voice messages, and other lovely work-related issues that left us with that tiny little question in the back of our minds: sure vacation is great, but is it really worth it?

Are we just bringing more stress on ourselves by allowing work to build, kids to get off schedule, and forcing a readjustment period?

When Husband and I finally collapsed at 9:00 last night to watch a few minutes of TV, the very first scene I saw was a working mom proclaiming that you have to find balance. She seemed to have it all. 

She noted that you just can’t see it as a struggle, or that is how it will all start to fall apart.

I won’t lie. My gut reaction was not very nice. Maybe I wanted to punch her. Just a little.

I was so relieved when she fell apart after the next commercial break, revealing that balancing it all really is a struggle.

Work, family, marriage, self … these things should complement each other, even enhance each other.

But all too often, I find myself feeling like I am never in the right place. I am never where I am needed the most.

I know that these feelings are a bit compounded this week as we are in that post-vacation readjustment phase, which {sarcastic side note} I’m sure the green-colored-everything party day today will be totally helpful in smoothing things over.

I know that we have a plan, a routine, a way of doing things that generally works for us. And, that most days we at least average balance, that even if we are up and down throughout the day, we can call it a wash by bedtime. 

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16 comments:

  1. Hang in there! And yes-it's totally worth it!

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    1. Thanks, and yes - Husband always reminds me that vacation is totally worth it. :)

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  2. I have found myself in a constant state of re-adjustment since baby #1 (over 12 years ago). Three kids and six deployments for my husband later, I think if it wasn't always that way, I'd get worried. I embrace the need to re-adjust. I think it means we're alive and growing. You can do it.

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    1. Hmmm. Embracing constant readjustment as the norm? That's a good perspective!

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  3. Yes! It's hard being pulled in so many different directions at once. I'm right there with you.

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  4. Oh goodness this speaks to me exactly where I am. You are so right, it is a struggle, and learning to balance it isn't all that easy. Great post.

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  5. Such a great post! I totally agree, sometimes you see people and theirs lives just look so perfect, but in the end we all have our bad days and good days and we're all just trying to make it through the week :)

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  6. We don't even have kids in the mix yet and I still don't know how to find a balance. Lately I've really been struggling with trying to find time to balance blogging and then the rest of life. It's hard. I wish I had the answer.

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  7. I kind of feel like anyone who claims to have found that balance is a liar. It's a constant juggling, shuffling, changing schedule where we're only doing the best we can.

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  8. It's all worth it and it sounds like your doing a great job, even when it doesn't feel like it! Stay at home or working outside of the home all moms have moments when they feel down and like things are out of control. Remember your not alone and we can all do this thing called motherhood! =)

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  9. Completely understand!!
    We live away from family and all our "vacations" are spent going home to visit them. We always come back home wayyyyyy more exhausted than before because rushing around trying to squeeze all the family/shopping/eating in is the worst!!

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  10. Well not the worst!!! Bahahah we enjoy our family but sometime it would be nice to stay home and have an actual vacation spent relaxing! :)

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  11. Vacations are tough but I believe it is worth it to get away and relax for a while! Even though you may come back to a hectic schedule, it is something that we are kinda already used to doing! I feel like I am always submerged in emails and work to catch up on and the wash ect....Getting a break to clear your mind is great and getting back on track is even better after having time spent regrouping one self!! Thanks for sharing hope your week goes smooth and easy for you!!!

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  12. Vacations are tough but I believe it is worth it to get away and relax for a while! Even though you may come back to a hectic schedule, it is something that we are kinda already used to doing! I feel like I am always submerged in emails and work to catch up on and the wash ect....Getting a break to clear your mind is great and getting back on track is even better after having time spent regrouping one self!! Thanks for sharing hope your week goes smooth and easy for you!!!

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