October 2016 - Baby Steps in High Heels

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

A really tough day

7:44 AM 0
A really tough day
"Mom, can I just relax in the bathtub for a while? I've had a really tough day."

When she said it, my first instinct was to laugh, snort, scoff ... what could my very protected and privileged six-year-old possibly know about a tough day? 

But, I didn't laugh. I paused, just long enough to really consider what she had said. I watched her lean back against the side of the tub and close her eyes in an attempt to let the day start to wash away. She looked, well, a lot like I imagine that I look at the end of the day. As I thought more about what she had said, it dawned on me how similar my child's schedule, yes my CHILD, is just like my own. 

She wakes up before 6:00 a.m. every single day and rarely slows down until 8:00 p.m. Sure, her school day ends mid-afternoon, but she is immediately bussed to her after school program, where they're encouraged to do homework right away. They do have a short snack time, but does that really count as down time? 

When I pick her up, there may be a bit of free time, but the evening routine basically kicks in right away...dinner, bath, homework. It's exhausting for me, as an adult that has the maturity and wisdom to process this busy trap we've woven for ourselves. 

She sighed and opened her eyes, ready for me to wash her hair. It had only been a minute, but I could tell she knew it was a minute too long, a minute we didn't have. It took a lot for me to fight the instinct to hurry her through the process, but I tried to resist. I sat down onto the floor, off of my knees. I rested my chin on the edge of the tub and sighed right back at her. 

"I had a long day, too." I told her. She touched my cheek with her wet, soapy hand and smiled up at me, and we sat in silence for just a few minutes. She swished the water around her, and I watched the calm wash over her face with every moment that passed without me saying, "hurry up."


Monday, October 24, 2016

Christmas Countdown

11:25 AM 0
Christmas Countdown
Another Monday means another week closer to Christmas. 

As the commercials and catalogs and lists ramp up, I found so much joy watching these cousins play this weekend ... with a piece of, well, I'm not sure what exactly. Foamy paper?? It was a protective cover for a new TV. Basically, it was going to be trash. 



But they played with it for a solid 45 minutes. And, I'm talking squealing laughter, big imaginations, loads of fun ...and not a toy in sight. 

So, as I prepare my holiday shopping lists this year, I'm hoping I can reign it in myself and remember that they will probably have more fun with the box than the gift!! 

A little break

8:24 AM 0
A little break
We did it. 

We snuck away for a short break to unwind and unplug. 

It wasn't a well planned or well packed trip given that we weren't even sure we'd make it just a few hours before departure. But we did. 

And it was exactly what we needed. 

We woke up hours before the sun, cuddled in front of the fire, watched the kids run and play and explore outside, all day. Without asking for toys once. They chased butterflies, fed horses, collected acorns. 

We stayed hours later than we had planned, most of us falling asleep on the way home, all of us rested and recharged.